I haven’t posted for a while, because of the above title. My mom suffered from dementia until her death.  Periodicaly I was her caretaker and experienced what I consider “Stranger Things”. These are two of the stranger things you should look out for:

  1. Hiding Things:  One day, I was looking for a dress for my mother to wear. While in the closet, I stepped on something mushy.  It was a bunch of bananas! When I asked why they were in the closet, she said that I told her to she keep them in a dark place so that they would stay fresh! I said to her “strange. I don’t remember saying that.”On another occasion, I found her face cream under the couch. When I asked her why she put the jar there, she said the man who came to wash her windows was using it.
  2. Hoarding:  Some people with dementia exhibit hoarding.  In my mother’s case, it was left over food.   Often the food was spoiled, or not fit to eat. If I would try to clean out the refrigerator and throw the food away, she would become extremely agitated. Her reasoning was, she didn’t want to throw away food because if the food wasn’t there, she would starve. Even though, she was always well fed by me or other family members.

         TIP: Try to be understanding of their need to exert some sort of control on their                 life  and seek out security.  You may have to take it upon themselves to quietly go               through and dispose of hoarded items incrementally especially if this is may                       jeapordize their health.  If the person hides or hoards things especially perishable             goods, check hiding places regularly, and discreetly dispose of any perishable items.


The Servant Leader

Are you a Servant Leader?  Do you want to be considered a Servant Leader? What is a Servant Leader?

A Servant Leader is a person who has a philosophy and set of practices that enriches the lives of individuals, builds better organizations and ultimately creates a more just and caring world. The servant-leader is servant first.  According to Robert Greenleaf of the Center for Servant Leadership, the servant leader’s goal is to make sure that other people’s highest priority needs are being served. A servant-leader focuses primarily on the growth and well-being of people and the communities to which they belong. The servant-leader shares power, putting the needs of others first and helps people develop and perform as highly as possible. Caring for persons, the more able and the less able serving each other, is the rock upon which a good society is built.